The experience is significant by itself. Pain is an indicator that something is wrong, not the cause of why we place significance on it. It's not as if the pain is coming from nowhere because of the situation. I wouldn't be surprised if I felt emotional duress after I broke up with someone. They were a huge part of my life and taking that away is going to damage me. Pain sucks and we remember pain very well, but it's more like part of the entire experience rather than the main reason why it's important. Anyway who disagrees must be a pretty severe narcissist, not even taking how other people affect them into account of their everyday thoughts.
You make an interesting point in saying that pain is an indicator that something is wrong. I agree with it. The pain comes from the desire to want to put things the way they should be.
ReplyDeleteI still sense you're assuming what you must prove. How would love be anything special without the pain involved? Picking out the clothes you wear to school only becomes a big deal when people start making fun of the way you dress and that teasing hurts you. Before then, you probably never gave dressing for school a second thought.
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