i believe that courtly love is just an excuse for eros. i dont think it should count as love. i think that for there to be love between to people there need to be more then infatuation and secret affairs. yes i do understand that in this time period marrige was just for making babies but still atleast your husband is a stable figure and not flacky and can deny you at any time in public like courtly love state you should. i believe that courtly love back then was purely out of lust and desire for smething you cant have. it there need to get rid of the feel of want that they think is "love".
like the knight can formally speak to his "damsel" in public or even acknowledge she there and i honestly doubt that the time they do spend together there sitting around talk about there lifes. also the fact that the cant really get to know each other with out have the risk of comment something about the other private life.
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I disagree with you when you say that courtly love should not count as love. I think everyone has their own way of expressing love and we shouldn't say that their way doesn't count. Maybe for some people, infatuation and secret affairs are the way they express their love for one another. Who are we to say that this is not "real" love.
ReplyDeleteYou need to support your point of view a little better. You're right that the knight did not show his affection for the lady publically, but that was out of consideration for her--she was likely to be married, after all. Explain to me, however, that this behavior shows the knight was driven by lust. I don't see the connection.
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