Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Response A
Alot of "The Art of Courtly Love", or just courtly love in general, seems very systematic, formulaic, strict. All of these are the exact opposite of what love is meant to be and what it should be. At least in terms of modern culture and film, love should be spontaneous. It should come from a natural connection (or attraction) to another person. It shouldn't come from silly rules like: always do (insert gentlemanly action here) before speaking to a woman. if a man does not do this, he should be ignored. This is just a generalization of courtly love, but it is mostly true. What this does is it turns love into a system almost. If you don't fit the system you are out. The last thing it seems to emphasize is actual connection, and to me that is just strange and wrong.
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I have a slightly different take on it. The way that I read courtly love is not so much how to fall in love, but how to behave once you fall in love and what is the likely course for that love to take. In that sense, it is systematic and I do agree with you. But I don't think this rules out the whole notion of personal connection.
ReplyDeleteYou raise some good points, but I'm not sure how you overlook the systematic nature of modern true love. If you treat the person you're in love with how ever you feel like treating them, isn't that a sign you care more about yourself than them and their feelings? I think you'd be hard pressed to convince someone you love them if you behave however you want, no matter how spontaneous your behavior is.
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